I know for a fact that a professional coach is trained to listen and to ask questions but what's in it for me is really much more than that.
1 - A listener and a safe space
It started when I just couldn't truly see myself and I couldn't deal with the judgmental society around me. The phrase "you are supposed to..." kept slamming onto my heart. And I've found out that there's a whole different environment when you talk to a coach.
Working with a coach gives you the chance to fully express yourself in a safe space. Being listened to, empathized with and understood beyond what you are saying will help you build the first fire to blaze your trail.
2 - Building your own arsenal
One thing, you might be disappointed if you expect your coach to tell you what to do. Advice is not among the benefits but I've got much more. I now hold in my hand a tool inventory, the access to a wide range of information and a personal approach to working things out.
I've learned to defuse my negative thoughts, to change my narratives.
I've come up with my own strategies to deal with the world that I never thought I could.
I've learned to practice mindfulness, meditation, empathy, and various of other useful habits that I and maybe many others, easily miss in our busy daily life.
3 - Having your growth pushed forward
Much as comfortable and supporting the atmosphere could be to me, it wasn't all smooth and easy, and I'm so glad that it wasn't because it shouldn’t.
There were sections I was so ready to give up on myself: me - stubborn, resistant to changes, and sometimes narrow-minded, me - who had a "but" to every suggestion.
Right there I'm grateful that my coach was so patient and passionate in her work. She was understanding enough to keep questioning me until I saw the way out, until I myself could say it out loud: This is how I will do it.
I went from being completely confused and sometimes irritated by people around, from thinking of myself as 'uncoachable' to this:
I can stop before my emotion surges.
I can re-direct the personal attacks on me just because I'm different.
I can choose my way to get involved rather than exhausting myself within the group.
During these sessions, what amazed me the most was how she understood culture differences, wholeheartedly, the same way she understood personal preference. She knew exactly what questions to ask, when and where to push.
But above all, I think, working with a coach is an exceptional chance to reflect upon yourself, to learn from inside out, to have your own "aha moments", and to get to the bottom of "I know and I do what's best for me".
So thank you. I'm really grateful.
"experience the world, isn't it beautiful?"